Is any of you married or Are any of you married?

 1. Is any of you married, offended, available?     If any of you is married, …
2. Are any of you married, offended, available?    If any of you are married, …
3. Are some of you married, offended, available?   If some of you are married, …
4. Is none of you married, offended, available?  If none of you is married, …
5. Are none of you married, offended, available?    If none of you are married, …
6. Is all of the group sitting?    If all of the group is sitting, …
7. Are all of the group sitting?    If all of the group are sitting, …

Any indicates one unit or one number or one part or kind, chosen from all.  Any is the interrogative and negative equivalent of ‘some’ or ‘none’ and is often used in questions when the answer is in doubt.

Any, when used as a pronoun, can take either a singular or plural verb, depending on how it is construed:
Any of these books is suitable (i.e. any one).
Any of these books are suitable (i.e. any of all of them, some)
But are any (i.e. some) of them available?
But is any (i.e. one) available?
 

Some indicates a fixed / limited but unspecified amount or quantity (usually small) of a mass or number of units.  Some is often used in questions when an affirmative answer is expected.

None means ‘not one of them’ and is used with a singular verb in formal writing and speaking and with a plural verb in normal, informal, conversational style.
  
Most native speakers prefer using a plural verb after ‘any’ in ordinary conversation.  If a native speaker wanted to use a singular verb, they would tend to say ‘if any one of you is married, offended, available.

Others including grammarians and pedants argue both are possible depending on the circumstances:
If one expects some /several /a few are married, offended, available, a plural verb is used.
If one expects only one / none / not any is married, offended, available, a singular verb is used.

Therefore, #1 and #2 are both possible and mean almost the same thing but the choice of a singular or plural verb is generally based on the way the speaker perceives /sees the situation at the moment of speaking and not on any grammar rules. It’s the meaning + usage that are the most important.